Whenever I go to a public event with a large crowd of people, I have a tendency to feel drained pretty quickly. I enjoy it to an extent, but it just isn't my thing.
When that used to happen, I'd go home and shut myself in my room and wonder what was wrong with me. I couldn't understand why I felt like the life had just gotten sucked out of me. I'd dwell on how I felt sorry for myself, and I'd eventually find myself in bed with a quart of ice cream.
The negative behavior and feelings would spiral. I hated my body. I had big feet (still do), cellulite on my hips (still have that, too), and my jaw was crooked (some things never change).
Let me be clear about one thing here, my bedroom was not my happy place. It was a deep dark hole that sucked me in deeper and deeper. Whenever I was there, my thoughts would spiral from what had just happened to everything bad I wanted to change about myself.
For those of us who are introverts, we rejuvenate when we're alone or with one or two close friends. While I do enjoy going to larger-scale events from time to time, it doesn't take long before I start to feel like I'm putting on a facade and I begin to shut down.
Sometimes the negativity in our lives can be overwhelming. When that happens, we need a place to go to, both for our bodies and our minds, where we can conjure feelings of positivity and peace.
It doesn't seem like a personal "happy place" would have anything to do with feeling sexy in one's body — but it has everything to do with it.
Thankfully, I've grown up since my black hole bedroom days, so I recognize when I'm feeling drained and know it's time for me to go to my happy place before I sabotage myself with food or negative thoughts.
A happy place can be a physical space that you go to or create within your home, or a mental "place" that you get in touch with.
So how do you go about finding your happy place? Start by asking yourself a simple question: