We all know the importance of having a morning routine. But what about harnessing the power of morning ritual for your relationship?
Getting complacent or taking your partner for granted can be an easy trap to fall into. It takes conscious action to keep the passion between you thriving.
So here are five simple morning rituals you can use to really nourish your relationship. Try one of these for the next seven days and watch your love life flourish.
This is one of the most simple yet powerful practices to create more connection with your partner. And it literally takes only two minutes.
- Sit, lie, or stand facing your partner.
- Look directly into each other's eyes.
- Soften your gaze, and focus on relaxing your body and opening your heart and soul to one another.
- Stay with each other for a few minutes like this. Play with "feeling into" each other energetically and allowing yourself to be "felt."
- Finish by sharing how you felt about the experience and what thoughts and feelings came up for you.
This can be a challenging practice, and it's quite common to feel overwhelmed or exposed. Give it time, and trust that you will gradually feel more comfortable being vulnerable and intimate with your partner in this way.
2. The morning prayer
This is one of my favorite tantric rituals. It's simple, powerful, and deeply healing. My partner and I love to use this when we want to connect sexually but aren't quite in the mood yet. More often than not, it helps us to tune in, relax, and gently stoke the fire for further sexual play. But it also makes a beautiful stand-alone practice as an intimate morning ritual.
- Lie comfortably facing each other.
- Start with some eye-gazing.
- Once your breath feels steady, deep, and relaxed, place your hands on each other's body. (Check in with each other first by asking, "Can I touch you?") Place one hand on your partner's genitals and one hand on your own heart center, and vice-versa. If that's too intense, just try placing your hands on each other's heart center.
- Without moving or "doing" anything, come back to your breath and focus on relaxing and opening your body and heart. Keep breathing and feeling into each other, fostering a sense of union and connection. You can even play with directing energy to various parts of your own or your partner's body or breathing energy in a loop between you.
- Do this for two to three minutes or as long as feels good. Finish by sharing how you found the experience and what thoughts and feelings came up for you.
3. Making out
It sounds obvious, but spending time kissing can really boost your relationship satisfaction.
- To get the most out of a kiss, though, you need to hold it for at least six seconds. This creates an oxytocin response—the neurochemical that encourages bonding and feelings of love. (For even more of a relationship boost, open your mouth and/or include some tongue.)
- Spend time making out when you first wake up and you'll start your day on an oxytocin high. It will bring you and your partner much closer.
Worried about morning breath? I used to worry about this too. The best thing to do is talk openly about it. Most of the time morning breath is not the big deal we make it out to be. Otherwise, some mints left on your bedside table will do the trick.
This is a solo practice, but it's really powerful for cultivating deep feelings of love, gratitude, and appreciation. The more we focus on these feelings in our relationship, the harder it is for toxic resentment, expectation, or apathy to creep in.
- Write a list of three to five things that you're grateful for or that you really appreciate in your partner. Be sure to include the little things, such as the way he sings when he's happy, as well as the big things, such as the way she loves you even when you're feeling down.
- To go deeper, include a "because." For example, “I'm grateful for the way my lover snuggles into me when we're watching a movie because it makes me feel deeply loved and held.”
There's no right or wrong here. Just play and get creative and enjoy spending time appreciating your partner.
5. Go walking together.
Getting outside first thing in the morning is a beautiful ritual to start your day. It clears the mind, wakes up the body, and can be a great mood booster.
- Walking with your partner means you both share these benefits, and it also gives you space away from the home to connect and share your thoughts.
And what better way to start your day than the two of you walking hand in hand together through the world? Bliss.