You kill your soul slowly when you live a life that goes against your personal values. Even if you're in a job that doesn't satisfy you, resist the urge to turn on the TV when you're not at work. Instead, read a book or undertake creative activities that will nourish your soul.
Follow through on your goals, as small as they may be. Write them down and take incremental steps toward them over a certain amount of time. Slow and steady progress can yield better results. Avoiding pressure results in more consistency and enjoyment. That's essential to the successful completion of a goal, no matter how big or small.
If you're in a situation or relationship you don't like, remember that those situations are almost definitely the result of your choices. You can choose a better path for yourself, even if it may seem impossible to break the pattern. Change direction by taking it one day at a time. Your future self will thank you; your confidence will blossom as a result of your tenacity and mental strength.
Self-confidence grows when we direct our own lives; we are the drivers instead of the passengers. As you make decisions based on what is right for you and persist in the face of inevitable difficulties, your self-assuredness will grow. You will find that saying no to people or situations that don't serve you will become a more natural reflex.
Do the things that matter to you. Prove to yourself that you are in control—that your fears don't control you. Walk with boldness knowing you are an original—unique and beautiful. As you reveal yourself to yourself, you won't need others to validate who you are. No one will be able to take away pieces of you because you will be whole already. The gradual process of knowing who you are is what self-confidence is all about.