Where I'm from in the U.K., a ladette is a young woman who behaves in a boisterously assertive or crude manner and engages in heavy drinking sessions.
Do you remember ladettes from your teenage days? Maybe you were even a ladette yourself? Drinking heavily, keeping up with the boys, being boisterous, lad-ish and not at all ladylike.
Born out of the Britpop era, people like Kate Moss, Nicole Appleton, and Patsy Kensit were all ladettes!
I grew up with this culture, and famous ladettes in the media were my role models, epitomizing cool. Downing pints, playing drinking games, stumbling home, and passing out were all requirements for a great night out.
With this culture informing my late teenage years, it took a long time for me to realize that being a beer-swilling, cigarette-toting ladette was not actually cool.
Years of subliminal brainwashing stating that "Alcohol is only for adults," or "You have to be cool to drink," or even "Alcohol makes you funny" made me desperate to carry off this perceived version of cool. What actually ensued was a drunken mess, and eventually I became a high-functioning alcoholic.
I couldn't continue in this fashion, so I decided to quit alcohol completely for a number of years. This worked well for a while, helping me to recover from my addiction, but after a long while of sobriety I felt as if I was depriving myself of something that I enjoyed.
I needed to find a new norm, which came in the shape of acceptance and mindfulness. I now occasionally enjoy a glass of red wine or Champagne. I don't beat myself up for doing so but neither do I embark down the road of no return and become an alcoholic ladette once again!
I wanted to be able to enjoy a glass of wine and still be a yogi, recognizing I am a human being delighting in the experiences of this joyous world.