The media talks a lot about sexual addiction, but most people don’t really know what to look for. Sometimes people are having lots of sex (however they define “lots”), and they worry they might be sexually addicted. Sometimes they’re cheating in a supposedly monogamous relationship, and they think maybe they’re doing that because they are sexually addicted.
Other times they engage in fetish behaviors, polyamory, same-sex activity, or some other (perfectly natural and normal) sexual behavior, but because the behavior doesn’t mesh with their social/religious/family value system, they wonder if they are sexually addicted.
This is an attempt to clarify what defines (and doesn’t define) sexual addiction, hopefully eliminating the types of confusion discussed above. Before proceeding, I think it is important to state, very clearly, that sexual addiction has nothing whatsoever to do with who or what it is that turns you on.
So being gay or into BDSM (or whatever) does not make you a sex addict any more than being straight and totally vanilla makes you a sex addict.