You know what would be amazing today? An hour to meditate. All by myself. In the peace and quiet. (I’d even take 20 minutes.)
That would be positively BLISSFUL.
But as a working mom, most days I’m lucky to piece together 10 minutes for myself—and rarely would I describe those minutes as quiet. Meeting life's demands can feel a little more like running on a hamster wheel than it does balance.
There's always one more thing to do and one more way it could be done better. Paperwork, appointments, cleaning, book repairs (so many book repairs), and all the good stuff, like drawing Elmo in every color, add up to a lot of pressure that many of us meet at the expense of self-care. Some days you barely remember whether you washed your hair.
For me, business at the expense of self-care meant losing touch with my meditation practice for a few years. What started as a day or two without meditation turned into a week. Then two. Soon it was something that I used to do, and when I’d think about starting it up again, I’d remind myself that I was “too busy.”
The problem with this, of course, is that cutting out self-care doesn’t change the business. Your to-do list will expand to fill up the time you give it. In the end, you feel even more stressed and rushed.
Life might be moving along at warp speed, but it wouldn’t mind you stepping in every now and then to say slow down and pay attention. It might not always be direct about this, but it will drop hints—like sticking you in traffic or an extra-long line at the grocery store.
I’ve started taking those hints to heart by using those times to breathe. Do you know what I realized? If I have time to breathe, I have time to meditate. I don't even need to get up at 4 a.m. to do it.
It’s not that perfect blissful hour, but life’s about more than being perfect. It’s about showing up and giving it a shot.
If you’re willing to give it a shot, you can use those life’s-dropping-you-hints moments to meditate in just three simple steps. Yes, even if you are a really busy working mama. (And, dads, you can do this too!)