How often do you look to others to validate you—to make you feel that you are important, valuable and worthy? How do you feel when you don't receive the validation and approval you are seeking?
Do you really want to leave your self-worth in the hands of others? Do you really want other people to determine whether or not you are OK? Do you want to be a victim of others' judgments?
How often do you feel anxious that you’re not performing well enough or that you don't look good enough to be approved of? Imagine how exhausting it would be to spend your life worrying about whether or not other people value you.
There’s only one way to stop the cycle: Learn to validate yourself. Learn to give yourself the attention, approval, love, and acceptance you seek from others.
Validating yourself is not just a matter of looking in the mirror and telling yourself that you are a wonderful, beautiful child of God. It's not just a matter of telling yourself throughout the day that you are OK.
Your inner child—your essence—won't believe you if the approval is coming from your limited, programmed mind (your ego-wounded self). Your programmed mind is like a child or adolescent. Whose opinion would you be more likely to accept? A child’s or that of an older, wiser person? Probably the latter.