Martha was one of the boys. She went camping on weekends. She drank beer at the pub. She hosted Super Bowl parties at her home. Like the sneakers and jeans she favored, her demeanor was casual and comfortable.
She received a lot of male attention—just not the kind she desired. Her “buddies” would call her to share their latest foibles with other women. They often asked for her female perspective. She was a loving, supportive, ego-boosting friend. Despite her kindness, no one ever expressed romantic interest in her—a fact that left her perplexed and confused.
“I often ask clients, ‘What do you think your crush is looking for in a partner?’ Many have never engaged in this type of reflection. Soon, a light bulb goes off. They realize that they may not be marketing themselves effectively—in a way that sparks attraction,” said Aimee.
The above is not a comprehensive list of all the barriers to love, just a few of the major ones. We suggest assessing your dating habits—especially if you’re feeling frustrated by your inability to create change.
While a well-trained professional (i.e., a therapist, coach, or counselor) can help you gain deeper insight, you can also do a lot of work on your own through self-analysis. But, no matter your method, work diligently toward your own growth and evolution. Love exists for you and is well worth the effort—we promise.