Want to put a little love in your heart? Well, it's gonna take some effort this week. Peace and harmony may be the Libra way—this sign counts Gandhi, John Lennon, and Alfred Nobel (of the Nobel Peace Prize) among its balanced ranks, after all.
So normally, a Libra full moon would be occasion to celebrate our soft spot for all mankind, passing out olive branches and goodwill.
However, the March 23, 2016, Libra full moon poses a challenge to that stereotype. It's particularly potent because it’s a lunar eclipse, which sweeps in and promptly confronts all our expectations.
Eclipses are known for prompting sudden change, turning potential energy into kinetic (active) energy, and revealing our "shadow" selves, as described by Dr. Jung. (Read all about this spring's eclipses here.)
The big news? This eclipse is the grand finale in a series of eclipses on the Aries/Libra axis, which began in October 2013. Throughout this series—the past two and a half years—you may have seen a dramatic reprioritization in your own life of the "me" and the "we."
Take a minute to assess the changes you've made. Are you exactly where you need to be or do you need to shift the levels of give and take in your life?
Revisit your journals, relationship statuses, and general state of being on April 15, 2014, and April 4, 2015, for clues of what could or should be coming to a climax now. And when that becomes clear, here are nine tips for dealing with whatever the Libra lunar eclipse shakes loose.
1. Attract an opposite.
How can you make your relationships even more dynamic? While common ground is great, Libra loves the principle of “opposites attract.” Branch out and work the buddy system with someone who knows how to pick up where you leave off.
Complementary skill sets make for a total dream team, even if the matchup seems bizarre on paper. In truth, these unlikely pairings can turn into the greatest win-win combos.
If you’re stuck in a rut, don’t autopilot into dialing a BFF who can commiserate. It would be far more productive to reach out to someone new—maybe someone who has conquered the very dragon you’re trying to slay. Creatives, call upon the gear heads; engineers, reach out to an artiste.
2. Remember that conflict isn't always the opposite of peace.
As our old-school Aries uncle Sami once said, tapping his fork on the rim of his plate for emphasis, “If you can’t fight with someone, you can’t love him.”
Sometimes, you’ve gotta shout it out to reach compromise. So what’s the difference between hotheaded screaming and productive conflict?
If both parties, in their hearts, truly want to solve the problem, then the fighting will be productive. But if they’re digging in their heels as a power play, then we might as well wave the (Libran) white flag now.
Review your relationships: Where do you have conflict or a disagreement? Can you forge a common agenda?
Do a little journaling with the goal of exploring what each person wants, and brainstorm a creative solution. You might even “role play” and write out the other side’s argument, just to gain some of that (Libran) empathy.
You can respect someone's right to stick to his principles, even if you disagree with them. Idealistic, we know, but that’s the spirit of Libra.
As Gandhi said, “Honest disagreement is often a good sign of progress.” He also said, “An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind.” Remember that this week.
3. Balance your "innerverse."
As above, so below; as within, so without. Check your habits, your home, your diet. Where has balance gone out the window?
Has your once peaceful sanctuary turned into a noisy hub, perhaps filled with children’s toys or unruly clutter? Strike a compromise: maybe you can’t feng shui the whole place or relegate the kids to one room, but you CAN carve out a little sanctuary for yourself, order a few TV-free hours, and go to town cleaning up one particularly egregious zone.
In your diet:
Have you been going too heavy on the stimulants (caffeine, anyone?) or burning it up with spicy foods? Learn about the pH scale of acidic-versus-alkaline foods, and try to add a few more alkalizing options from this food chart.
Most of us are fueled by stress and adrenaline at our jobs. Where can you be more conscious and calm regarding your finances and your career?
Libra also rules the lower back, so if you need more spinal support (and many of us do), look into standing desk options, or just make your own.
4. Embrace change as an adventure.
We should never cower like victims when we hear that change is coming. Change is an opportunity for growth, and it’s our duty as human beings to continue evolving.
Perhaps something in your life has grown stale and stagnant. Maybe you’re taking your rights and privileges for granted and need a wake-up call.
5. Acknowledge the positive traits in others.
Relationship harmony is a major focus of this Libra full moon. Feeding the “emotional bank account,” as 7 Habits author Stephen Covey calls it, doesn’t require a huge deposit.
This week, acknowledging and appreciating the little things that people do can be the glue that seals your bonds. Here are a few magic phrases to try:
- “I love the way you X (insert action or trait).”
- “I really appreciate the way you X.”
- “Thank you for doing X.”
It’s so easy to overlook the wonderful gifts people bring us on a daily basis, but being taken for granted is a huge buzzkill in both romance and friendship.
Get the lovefest going by showering people with compliments this week. Do you need to be acknowledged, too? There’s nothing wrong with asking for it, but be a giver first. The reciprocal remarks may come “automagically” once you start doling them out to others.
6. Join the Justice League.
The scales of justice are the Libra motif, and this full moon shines a bright beam on bias, discrimination, or anything that’s just plain unfair.
Appoint yourself a member of the Justice League, and bring things back to a level playing field. Is someone being bullied in your neighborhood, school, or within your family? Would you like to see your office culture be more inclusive? Are animals being mistreated in your area?
Do something to help right the wrong. This is especially potent if you are on the winning team. It’s not really a victory, after all, if someone else has to suffer for your gain. Remember that Libra is the peaceful warrior.
7. Consult a stylist.
Luxe-loving Libra is ruled by Venus, planet of beauty, fashion, and the arts. Personal style is a rich form of self-expression and a powerful way to wear your soul on your sleeve.
This full moon helps you identify a signature look—your tribal markings, if you will. Are you feeling like a fashion victim, riding the roller coaster of trends? A session with a stylist might seem extravagant but could actually save you big bucks in the long run.
Working with a pro can help you develop a customized look and save you from all those costly wardrobe missteps. Image may not be everything, but Libra knows the powerful impact great style can have.
Let this full moon teach you how to speak a strong visual language. Opt for a touch of luxury and splurge on something that stands the test of time.
8. Regain your balance.
When in balance, we feel sure-footed and stable, as if we are standing on solid ground. Libra’s equalizing energy can be incorporated into our physicality this week.
One of the simplest exercises for improving balance is to stand with feet hip-width apart, bend a knee, and alternate lifting each leg off the ground, holding it there for 30 seconds.
More advanced balancers could try this on a BOSU ball. Yogis and yoginis, tree pose (vrksasana) is an excellent way to improve stability. Hold your abdominals tight while doing these exercises. This protects and strengthens the lower back, which, as mentioned above, is ruled by Libra.
9. Show your sensitive side.
Sometimes, all our grandstanding and well-crafted arguments mask very simple emotions: hurt, fear, shame, guilt. Rather than say “you hurt my feelings” or “I’m sad that we broke up,” it seems easier to stage a tabloid-worthy war, attacking the other person below the belt so they feel the same searing pain we’re too proud to admit that we feel.
Recommended viewing, even if you’ve seen it before, is Brené Brown’s TED talk The Power of Vulnerability. It's time to reap the fruit of all the seeds you've sown.