Something triggered discomfort in you—it might be something big, or it might be something little that just feels big. Whatever the case, you can’t stop thinking about it. You feel like you might need to make a change in your habits or your approach to certain dynamics, but you don't know how. You finally decide to ask your best friend what they think. But really, you just want them to tell you you’re not crazy for thinking what you think.
When our friends validate what we’re already thinking, it feels so much better than when they tell us what to do (how dare they judge?!). But if our friends tell us what they think we want to hear rather than what we need to hear, we stay on the hamster wheel, never escaping the negative patterns we've set up.
Our natural tendency is to reject advice that isn’t consistent with our plans or thinking. But, quite often, the most valuable tool for life improvement is learning to be open to different perspectives—considering our situation from points of view that we might instinctively resist out of fear. Here are some tips for opening your mind to the wisdom you might subconsciously be afraid to hear.