It doesn’t matter if you've been dating for one year or married for 10 years; If you're in a serious relationship you're bound to get the, “So when are you having children?” question every once in a while.
I would know. I get it all the time.
I've been married for six years, which may not be that long in the scheme of a lifetime together, but apparently it's enough time to put my husband and me decades behind in the world of starting a family. People automatically assume that we don’t want kids, or we're miserable in our marriage. In reality, neither of these assumptions is true.
Family is incredibly important to both of us, but a happy marriage is our number one priority. We make decisions together as a team that best fit both of our timelines. Over the last six years, we have shared unforgettable memories, unforeseen obstacles, and extreme heartache together—moments we feel will make us a couple that's proud to be an example for our children.
If I've learned anything over the years, it's that people love to think they know how you can live your life better. And their judgment and criticism can hold you back from living in a way that makes you truly happy.
So before you dive into having kids for other people, answer these five questions for yourself: