On Valentine’s Day last year, I sat sobbing in my bathtub. I was sad to be single, wondering if I’d ever meet someone, and longing for a deeper connection. But I had yet to realize that the connection I really needed was with myself.
In fact, I'd never truly taken the time to get to know and accept myself as a sexual being. And so after a particularly hurtful and unfulfilling relationship, I decided to address the deeper intimacy needs I'd been trying to meet through sex.
While I didn't initially decide to abstain from sex for the year, my one rule was to radically love myself and to not engage until I was really ready.