Why Your Lucky Break is Never Coming (And It's Actually A Good Thing)
Yep — I said it. Your lucky break isn’t coming. I'm coming from a good place though, I promise. Let me explain.
I’m a business owner. I’ve never taken a business class in my life. I was 22 when I started my business. Needless to say, I had quite a few learning curves ahead of me. In fact, even five years later, I learn something new every single day.
One of the most important lessons I've learned is that waiting for "luck" was holding me back more than I could even comprehend.
Luck has no effect on how successful you are, how deeply you love, how healthy you are, or how happy you are to wake up in the morning. Remember that faith is not the same as luck.
It wasn’t until I started taking credit for the opportunities I had created and taken that I realized no master plan was doling out luck. I didn't have to wait for my apportioned amount.
Our actions result from attitudes — not luck — which determine how we treat our families, coworkers, friends, mentors, and protégés. Our actions are far more consequential than any roll of the universe's proverbial dice.
Have you ever heard someone say, "Luck is when preparation meets opportunity"? If you act as a passenger, waiting for luck to magic the perfect conditions into being, you'll be mired in a sea of negative interactions, misinterpreted opportunities, and disappointment. Harnessing your ability to mindfully direct your interactions and influence your circumstances is how you change your life.
Perhaps the most damaging aspect of the “lucky break” mentality is that it assigns credit to some unseen, uncontrollable force. When we credit luck instead of action, we set ourselves up to fail when the going (inevitably) gets tough.
I used to constantly attribute great opportunities to "lucky breaks." If nothing positive occurred for a length of time, I interpreted that lack as something out of my control, which caused me to stress out about this universal dispensation of luck, which had no logic and couldn't be counted upon.
Crediting luck when things are good discounts your personal contribution, value, and ability. When you're in a dry spell, it can be even more destructive. It sucks away your resilience. Feeling helpless in the face of an unfavorable universe quickly depletes our ability to pull through the tough times.
It wasn’t until I changed my mindset — started giving myself full credit for the opportunities I had created and taken — that I realized I could do that all the time. No great master plan was doling out luck. I didn't have to wait for my apportioned amount.
I acknowledged that positivity comes my way because I release positivity into the world. Now, I let it flow freely from me and back again. And when an opportunity or an accolade does come my way, I take ownership of it and work to find more creative, fulfilling ways to maximize its positive inertia in my life.
If you consider your life a series of lucky or unlucky breaks over which you have no control, you're not giving yourself the credit you deserve for your hard work. But you're also not taking responsibility for your own destiny.
As you work toward your goals each day, week, month, and year, remember that you are in control of your success and failures. Lucky breaks are a mental escape construct to "rescue" us from the hard work that actually stands between ourselves and what we want. But truly, that mindset will keep you from achieving your goals.
Have faith in yourself and your ability to create the life and love you want. Let go of your dependence on luck as a "deus ex machina" escape route. It isn't coming.
Commit to the hard work in your career, relationships, and other pursuits that will inevitably, reliably create more positive outcomes than the fiction of luck.