We’re all familiar with “To-Do” lists, which means we're also well-acquainted with the stress and shame that can often accompany the effort it takes to get everything on that list done, running ourselves ragged with the effort. We’ve mastered the art of exhausting ourselves by trying to check things off a list, to feel good enough about our "accomplishments" and worthy of a break.
So in the spirit of not beating myself up over itemized lists that aren't fully crossed off, this year I've decided to try something different: "To-Be" lists.
Rather than writing down exhaustive columns of things I should be doing, this year I'm choosing to go at whatever pace feels good, being extremely gentle with myself, and focusing on peace and slowing down. Without stress, judgment or ulterior motives, I'm going to focus on how to feel rather than what to do.
Here's an example of one of my To-Be lists. Note that the bullets have nothing to do with getting stuff done and everything to do with how I want to feel: