For a long time, I had the innocent misunderstanding that the emotions I sensed in other people were actually their opinions of me. This led me to spend the majority of my childhood trying to cheer everyone up.
For so many years, I thought changing how someone felt would allow them to "like" me — even though I was actually well-liked already. “Are you mad at me?” became my go-to question.
Just like many energetically sensitive children, I spent the first phase of my life caught in a cycle of vibrational codependency. The frenetic energy of other children was often too much for me to handle, and I was intimidated by how roughly they played. My kind of fun was much more passive — I loved playing by myself, using my imagination, and interacting with adults.
Any time adults spoke about the deeper aspects of life, I felt the energy in the room shift into a more expansive state. I didn’t know what was happening, but I liked how it felt. Of course, many years later, I realized I had been intuitively picking up layers of emotion in their energy.
I share this with you because perhaps you, too, are empathic and on a similar journey. It can be painful, overwhelming, and confusing to work your way through a world in which you're inundated with emotional weight and distracted by the patterns that other people are resolving within themselves.
Here are four tips to help you navigate your journey without dwelling on other people's emotional debris. In practicing them in my own life, I've found how to step to the forefront of a healing journey: