Holidays are high-pressure times for many people, bringing up complicated emotions and extra stress. Despite your well-meaning intentions or a feeling that this is the perfect time to talk to this person with family support, it probably isn't.
There are many, many reasons someone might be drinking more during the holidays or face an exacerbated problem with drinking.
If you decide to talk to them about their drinking, pick a time when they are rested and relaxed. Try to stay away from passive-aggressive comments, judgment, or blame.
Try to focus on “I” statements. Explain how you feel as a result of the person’s drinking. Be as loving and supportive as you can, but also be clear about your concerns.
If talking face to face is too difficult, consider writing a letter. Again, be gentle but firm. The letter doesn’t have to be long, but it's important that it be direct. Remember, focus on how the person’s drinking affects you.
It is likely that that person may become defensive, especially if confronted around other people. If you see any potential for that to occur, consider postponing any further discussion until after the holidays and follow the rest of these tips.