Let’s say that you’re in a situation where the proverbial s*** is hitting the fan; people are arguing, screaming, and throwing angry words in every which direction.
Even if someone is taking things out on you, instead of reacting to it, what if you simply sit there and love them? What if you notice the most beautiful thing about them in that moment? Maybe they took a lot of care with their hair that day, or maybe you can see the Christmas lights twinkling off of their eyes. It doesn’t have to be profound, simply notice the most beautiful thing about them in that moment and put your attention on it. What we put our attention on grows, so we want to take care that we are watering the flowers and not the weeds.
They will feel that love coming towards them, and sometimes that will soften the behavior. Even if it doesn’t spark an immediate change, the simple action of loving them helps shift the energy in the room towards appreciation instead of hostility.
So instead of going home to your family and trying to fix everybody, prove how successful you are, or get the validation that you never got enough of as a kid, what if you instead use this holiday season as a time to deliver some love? Remember: mind the gap, meditate, and put your attention on the most beautiful parts of your family. Making a bit of effort to do these three things will be a gift to you and your family — a more valuable one than anything you will find under the tree.
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