Most people are quick to reject the idea of New Year's resolutions. I think we've grown wary of the idea because it brings up memories of failed attempts and hopeful do-overs.
I get that. But what if the concept of a New Year's resolution isn't actually at fault? What if it's about the resolutions you choose to make?
Common resolutions include losing weight, making more money, or getting more organized — and I don't mean to suggest these goals aren't absolutely worth striving to achieve. But I propose that framing resolutions in a way that makes you feel inadequate or incapable might not be the best way to bring about the change you want.
Presenting yourself with challenges that recognize your intrinsic value and put self-care at the fore can make you feel more capable, more optimistic, and more excited about this future version of you.
You might want to lose weight in order to look better, but what's making you unhappy with the way you look right now? It's likely related to a lack of self-acceptance. That's the part of you that deserves attention.
Instead of asking where you're failing to meet expectations, ask yourself what you want this year. Then find the areas of opportunity for bringing yourself closer to those goals.
In the spirit of making this your best year yet, consider reframing your approach to resolutions. Here are 10 ideas to get you started:
1. Be kind to everyone you meet — starting with yourself.
2. Learn to be comfortable with the unknown. The more faith you have, the easier your life will be.
3. Love your body regardless of the number on the scale. When you feel good on the inside, it will be reflected on the outside.
4. Choose more foods based on how they make you feel rather than how they make you look.
5. Listen to your heart. It knows what your head has yet to figure out.
6. Be more willing to accept that things end. An end is the only way into a new beginning.
7. Accept that a closed door is the wrong door. Something better will open up for you.
8. Start calling your dreams your "plans."
9. Trust that everything is working out in your favor. All is in divine order.