I was a social drinker until 2010 when I tried the 30-Day No-Alcohol Challenge. After that, I quit alcohol cold turkey. Until that point, my dates had always revolved around alcohol. Like most people, I'd meet women in a bar for a drink, or we’d order wine with dinner. We think, drinking will relax me, so I'll seem more confident and less nervous. It's the standard game plan.
Sure, it might lubricate the proceedings. It might take us a few drinks before the conversation finally starts to flow. At that point, we'll stop evaluating each other so acutely and start to flirt, increasing the likelihood of a first kiss (or something else). That strategy is effective — when you want superficial, short-term connections. But I know from experience that it doesn't facilitate real, meaningful intimacy.