I was 21 when another woman at church scolded me for allowing my 7-month-old son to make a suction noise on my shoulder.
"He knows better,” she insisted. “You can spank him."
I didn't know what to say. I felt so guilt-ridden that I ended up verbally agreeing with her — even though I knew in my heart he was too young to know better.
That day, I parented out of a place of shame, based solely on the opinion of another person. Unfortunately, it wouldn't be the last time.
As I grow as a mother, I'm realizing discipline is a delicate dance of healthy boundaries and clear expectations.
There are numerous philosophies and traditions around disciplining children. Of course, if parents are being overtly abusive or negligent, that’s a problem. But otherwise, there are many ways to parent the “right” way.