I really don’t like conflict. In fact, I try to avoid it as much as possible. But unless you’re a hermit or a monk, chances are you’ll deal with interpersonal conflict at some point. You just have to learn to deal with it.
In trying to see the positives of arguing, I was pleasantly surprised at what I discovered. I hope these realizations help you see the bright side of your next conflict.
If someone is upset with you, it shows they care. Likewise, if you’re upset with someone, it’s likely because you care. I’ve heard therapists say that arguments often arise between couples or family members due to a longing for passion or closeness.
It’s not the most pleasant way to engage, but arguments are a form of emotional contact. If you didn’t value each other’s opinion or presence in your life, you might just dismiss each other rather than engage in conflict. Try to take it as a compliment and proof that there is genuine caring in your relationship. There are actually positives to conflict: