Ask most people what qualities they desire in a partner and you will be amazed at the dust-inducing speed with which some of us can come up with a list detailing the minutest “requirements” our ideal partner must meet.
Have you been guilty of dismissing or writing off a potential partner because he failed to meet all the requirements on your list in spite of the fact that you enjoyed spending time with him, experienced a wonderful connection with him, or found him to be a great match for you in many ways?
There is a difference between being choosy and not being able to recognize great things when they are placed before you. Human beings have a tendency to always want to hold out for bigger or better things; we naively try to convince ourselves that the grass is greener on the other side.
But we don't always take into consideration that we are responsible for the lives we create for ourselves and the partners we attract into them.
To attract the kind of partner we desire, we have to become the kind of person we desire. The one you are looking for is also searching for that special person. Are you her “one” or do you run the risk of being dismissed as unsuitable? We have to become the kind of person who can sustain the kind of relationship we desire on all levels before we can draw it to ourselves.