This weekend, I lost a very young beloved friend, way too early. And the spiritual retreat center where I have sought solace, wisdom, healing, and guidance for many years just burned to the ground in water-parched California. When tragedies pile on top of each other, it’s natural for us to seek meaning and desperately try to find answers to “Why?”
There's a philosophy in spiritual circles that everything that happens in our lives — the blissful things and the horrid things — all happen with a purpose. They say that everything in your life, you create. The good, the bad, the ugly — it’s all up to you.
This teaching suggests that everything reflected in our lives is the result of our desires (conscious or unconscious). When things aren't going our way, it's because the blueprint of the subconscious actually desires the very thing we think we don't want.
In other words, we may think we want to meet the love of our life, or we may hope to have the disease cured, but if someone were to "read" the subconscious mind, they'd discover that on a deep level, we’re actually terrified of falling in love because of a past heartbreak, or the disease is meeting some core need for rest or freedom from a toxic job.
“Wait!” you say. “But I really DO want to find The One!” Are you suggesting that I really don't want a relationship?
Yes, and no. Those who promote this viewpoint are not suggesting that you consciously want a crappy love life. They’re saying you subconsciously want to avoid a relationship, and because your subconscious is in charge 95 percent of the time, this will sabotage the very thing your conscious mind wants to create.