Research conducted by author Brene Brown confirms what many of us feel instinctively: That we should keep our vulnerability for those who have earned our trust. These people will listen and show up with genuine support rather than judge.
In this social media–driven world, it’s the norm to share every detail of our lives. We depend on external validation when, truly, the only person who needs to validate who you are and what you do is you. Your story is yours, and you need to be mindful of who you allow into your inner world.
According to Brown, shame is the most psychologically detrimental experience any of us can endure — and shame usually stems from being vulnerable in unsafe emotional environments.
Peruse the friend types below and consider whether any of your friends fit into these categories. Once you choose to stop sharing your deepest thoughts and feelings with people like this, your confidence will grow and your insecurity will decrease. Sounds like a no-brainer, right?
1. The Gossiper
No secret is safe with the gossiper. This person is not concerned with loyalty, and friends come in and out of her life as if through a revolving door.