Whether you feel stuck in a dissatisfying relationship, an unfulfilling career, or find that you’re just generally feeling uninspired, a little self-love can go a long way. Rekindling your relationship with yourself will remind you what’s important, and will help build the momentum you need to make changes for a more fulfilling life.
If you’re ready to make some changes, but need a little boost to move forward, read on for 15 ways to rekindle your relationship with yourself.
1. Schedule a day to celebrate you.
Who says you have to wait for your birthday? Pick at least one day a month to celebrate yourself. Clear your schedule and do whatever your heart desires. Sleep in, go to a movie, take a Pilates class. You’ll feel so refreshed, you may even make it a weekly habit. (“Self-Care Sunday” has a nice ring to it.)
2. Stop saying yes when you want to say no.
If you’re routinely overextended at work or overbooked with social commitments, look for ways to scale back. Set better boundaries at the office so you don’t burn out, and skip a happy hour or two if you know you’d rather just go home and read a book.
3. Stop saying no when you want to say yes.
Don’t let fear and self-doubt hold you back from new opportunities. Say yes to that blind date your friend’s been wanting to set you up on (you never know, right?). If you’re feeling stuck in a job with no room for growth, take advantage of networking opportunities and get your resume out there.
4. Create a morning ritual.
When you start your morning with some self-care, it sets the tone for the rest of the day. Watch the sun rise with a cup of coffee, do a little yoga, or meditate before breakfast.
5. Find a physical activity you love.
Our bodies are made to move, stretch and sweat! If you don’t already know what kind of exercise you love, take the time to find out.
6. Try a new hobby on for size.
If you’re feeling bored, shake things up with something completely different. Try your hand at origami, or test your green thumb with a little gardening.
7. Turn off your gadgets.
If you’re using social media as a way to avoid what’s going on in your own life, power off the gadgets and start listening to your gut.
8. Ditch the negative self-talk.
We all have some sort of unproductive soundtrack playing in our heads from time to time, which might include such thoughts as “I’m not good enough” or “I’ll never amount to anything.” If you’re giving negative thoughts too much air time, change the channel. Keep your focus on the present moment and let go of any thoughts that don’t serve you.
9. Fuel your body.
Take a look at what you’re eating and how it impacts your energy levels and mood. You can try keeping a food journal to see if you notice any patterns. Stay well hydrated, and nourish your body with healthy foods so you feel good inside and out.
10. Feed your soul.
Whether you belong to a religious community or not, find out what nourishes your soul. Maybe it’s yoga, meditation, reading or being out in nature.
11. Be still.
Turning inward and focusing on your breath for a few minutes is a great way to reconnect with yourself. Thoughts may come and go; just notice them and bring your attention back to your breath.
12. Turn envy into motivation.
You may often feel like everyone has it all together except for you, but that’s simply not the case. Instead of comparing yourself to others or coveting someone else’s success, focus on what makes you happy and start taking steps towards achieving your goals.
If you’re feeling really stuck, try journaling. Getting your thoughts out of your head and onto paper can help you process your feelings and gain perspective.
14. Nurture your home.
Does your living space reflect who you are? Make it your own sanctuary that you look forward to coming home to.
15. End your day with a smile.
When you’re getting ready for bed, take a moment to look in the mirror. Give yourself a smile and remind yourself how incredible you are. You did your best to put yourself first today, and tomorrow is a new day and a new opportunity for self-love.