Forgiveness is difficult, rewarding and essential for your wellbeing. But ironically, sometimes it can be scary to let go of feelings like guilt, shame and disappointment because they have become familiar and feel safe.
For years, I recognized that "feeling guilty" had become a huge part of my life, and I was scared of what would happen if I actually forgave myself. To my delight, what has replaced the disappointment is feeling really good about myself, something I’m growing more and more accustomed to.
It has taken a TON of work — daily habits, nurturing exercises and heightened awareness. I have good days and bad days. What is most rewarding about this process is that I can look back at those old emotions and see how distant I am from them now. They no longer hold power over my mental state.
Here are the steps I took to forgive myself and release guilt:
1. Own your feelings.
If you've been unable to forgive yourself for something, admit this out loud to a trusted friend.