As a hairdresser, I've had many clients sit in my chair for the first time and express feelings of deep contempt for their hair. They feel cheated, hating their hair and upset about the way it looks, hoping I'll magically save them and they'll walk out of the salon with a new head of hair.
It's too fine, too damaged, too thin, thick, curly or frizzy. Some have struggled for years with like the strands they were born with — they want whatever their hair is not, regardless of whether it's even possible. Sometimes the root of "problem" is genetics, poor diets or damage. Sometimes there's no problem at all, it's just perceived. But whatever the case, a shift in perception is always necessary to radiate true beauty, from the scalp down.
In these sensitive moments behind the chair, I express compassion and understanding, and do my best to coach them to a better place emotionally, a more positive way of seeing where they're at.
Everything is energy. It's the essence of reality and everything is contained within the energetic web of reality. It's constantly shifting, alive and vibrating. Our thoughts and feelings are energy as well, and how we think and feel about our bodies will absolutely have an influence on our cells, body and overall health.
So when someone has a negative relationship with their body or hair, and their primary thoughts are those of loathing and hostility toward their appearance, they don't radiate beauty. As a result, their hair appears lackluster, abused and sad. When someone has filled a layer of their energy field with pain, hate or sadness about anything, over time, it really does create the negative reality, taking a serious toll on the body and spirit.
Confidence, self love, beauty and radiance are high vibrations that emanate from the true self. Joy, peace and contentment surround and radiate naturally from the soul, and hurtful, judgmental thoughts dampen and degrade the body and it’s parts. Next time you become aware of the negative thoughts you’re creating, remember those hateful thoughts will eventually manifest in the physical body.
Once we realize that everything is connected — corporeal and ethereal — we can shift our focus to align with our true self and create nurturing thoughts from the heart.
The mind is like a computer, and whatever you choose to focus on, even if it's only for a moment, will become part of your program, creating a pattern that will return again and again with more thoughts and feelings of the same vibrational nature. The frequency you emit is what you'll reflect to the world.
In order to make a real change, it's helpful to find a new, positive angle on a subject ... a thought to “pivot” onto. For example, if the original thought is, "I hate my hair,” opt for a more positive thought like, “I'm thankful I have hair,” or “As I take care of my hair, it will get healthier.”
I've guided people for years to stop hating their hair and understand the metaphysical impact their thoughts and feelings have, along with doing everything I know professionally to give them the most healthy, beautiful hair possible. Most importantly, remember you are a divine soul made of light, and your true nature is light, love, abundance, joy, happiness and peace. That is who you really are!