7 Habits Of Highly Resilient People
We all have those weeks where it seems like everything is going wrong at once. Relationship drama, a bad review at work, unnerving health symptoms. But, you've been through rocky periods before, and you've always made it through.
Rather than focusing on the bad, think about the most determined people you know, and channel their strength. Then, turn that inspiration into action by implementing these seven habits of folks who persevere towards their purpose and get things done.
1. They focus on the big picture.
The thing about hitting rock bottom is that there's nowhere to go but up. Step away from the situation and take the macro perspective. This rough patch is a bump in the road, not the end of the road.
2. They find meaning in the mess.
Failure is one of the best learning experiences you can have. It teaches you what didn't work, so you can find what does. It's proof you can recover, making the next risk you consider seem less scary. And, it makes your successes feel that much more meaningful. Make your struggles worthwhile by learning from them.
3. They take it one day at a time.
The situation you're dealing with probably won't be fully resolved in a day. But, breaking the necessary steps into smaller chunks will make it seem much less daunting. When you start to feel anxious, repeat the mantra, "One task at a time, one day at a time." Making a list and crossing off the steps you've completed as you go will give you a calming sense of accomplishment.
4. They welcome change.
A lot of us fear change, simply because it is unknown. But, every change occurs for a reason. It's up to you to find the opportunity in metamorphosis. If you have to move, it's an opportunity to create a new circle of friends. If your relationship ends, it's a chance to prioritize yourself again. If your company downsizes, it creates space for you to pursue your dream job. Receive change as an opportunity to improve your life, and it will be.
5. They've learned the power of surrender.
If your car begins to skid or hydroplane, the best way to correct your course is to turn into the skid. It might feel counterintuitive, but the same is true of difficult situations in life. Recognize what is in your power and what is not. Take the action you can, and then let go. Recognizing that you can't fix everything is one of the most liberating experiences in life.
Sometimes when facing difficult situations, all you can do is surrender.
6. They turn inward.
Victor Frankl said,
“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.”
Rather than struggle to change the external situation you're facing, why not work from the inside out? Check in with your emotions, focus your mind, and center yourself spiritually. Every challenge is an opportunity to become a better version of yourself.
7. They see hope in adversity.
The people who most inspire us in life are the ones who stick to their principles, swing for the fences, and never let their circumstances define them. If you can change your perspective to focus on the benefits of a negative situation, the situation itself is transformed into something good.
"The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.” -Oliver Goldsmith