Tantra + Sex: What You May Not Know, But Should
While many people associate Tantra with sex, the practice actually comes from little-understood Sanskrit texts originating from the 6th to 13th centuries in India. The practice involves mantra, meditation, yoga and ritual. In a Western sense, Tantra has come to symbolize a philosophy of liberation through the body.
But Tantra is really a practice that can help us love our life and have a deeper spiritual connection to everything in it. By maintaining awareness in everything we do, we gain access to the soul — our connection to the universe. Tantra is in essence, the practice of mindfulness at its core.
There is nothing that one needs to achieve in the Tantric path, nothing that one isn't already. Essentially Tantra is a path about allowing and accepting that which is already there to be revealed, and letting go of what no longer serves us.
For Tantra, Divinity can be experienced in the here and now. And yes, intercourse can allow us to experience the Divine, offering a personal path to liberation via the body. It is when we lose ourselves that there is no more ego.
Because there is no destination in mind during the sexual act, which can bring a person to transcendence. It is not something we do, it is something we are. In Tantric sex, we become one with our partner so that nothing else exists, except for this oneness.
Much like Taoism belief, in Tantra nature is dualist. The Taoists believe that reality is made up of polarity: Yin and Yang. Tantra believes that Shiva is the masculine God and Shakti is the feminine Goddess. The fundamental Taoist principle of Yin and Yang is pragmatic, scientific and rational in its approach. Whereas Tantra's Shiva and Shakti are Divine archetypes. In China, there is little understanding or focus on Divinity, whereas in India where Tantra comes from, there is far more of a wide range of eclectic traditions recognizing God in all things.
What is important to acknowledge within Tantra is that reality is made up of God and Goddess energies. In Tantra, the body is therefore a temple to reach the Divine. The sexual act is therefore the most sacred portal we can open to ascension, reaching and experiencing God and our Divine self.
In Tantra, we embody the sacred masculine and feminine energies within our body. All our desires are to be accepted and embraced. The Western paradigm of judgement, blame, shame and guilt have no place in Tantra.
The yogic path of celibacy and raising up the Kundalini energy into our head and Crown Chakra, is often misplaced within Tantra where the energy is contained within the Divine union — already a completed circuit.
Tantra teaches that all is welcome. That which judges, divides and separates us, is the rejection of wholeness. Tantra is about being limitless and ineffable. The moment one tries to control something, one has lost Tantra.
Osho taught that one has to stop condemning and stop controlling — to trust love. The moment we see something as good or bad, pure or impure, holy or unholy, we is judging.
To follow a Tantric path means to find and embody a state of pure acceptance and non-judgment. And such is the state one can only reach via sexual union, where one becomes indivisible — no longer separate. United in love. United in Divinity. This is Tantra.