We all know that Happily Ever After doesn’t always pan out.
Many people come into our lives for a moment in time to help us grow and expand; then their duty is done. And unfortunately we often get so caught up in obsessive future planning of the what if’s, that we miss the magic of the moment. Which essentially is all that really exists.
What about this … Happily Ever Now.
Being present with your partner. Dropping all the wondering and worrying about whether or not your relationship will or will not last, and instead appreciating the fact that the person is actually here, now, standing right smack in front of us.
The art of being in love with the present moment takes a bit of cultivation, a lot of slowing down — and it takes mindfulness.
Here are four powerful ways to get your relationship back to the here and now:
1. Pinch yourself.
Be grateful that in this moment you are together. Notice who your partner really is and how they contribute to your life. Take time to appreciate their strengths, their flaws, their attractive qualities and their shortcomings.
2. Let it happen.
If you have just met, allow your love story to organically tell itself. Stop trying to force the relationship into the next level without enjoying the stage you are in together right now.
3. Avoid social media.
When you partner is trying to connect with you … limit your attention to social media. Leave the phone in the car during date night. Shut the computer down when the sun goes down, so that you can be present and available for some evening magic!
4. Be authentic.
Take time to authentically communicate with your partner about how you feel, especially when something is on your mind. Take a risk and allow yourself to be vulnerable by communicating without blame or judgment — your true needs and wants.
Happily Ever Now is a quite a magical place to be by simply being present and learning to relax about the future. Fairytales can and do come true, but who wants to get to “The End” that fast anyway!
Here's a short video I put together for you to inspire you to fall in love with the present moment. Enjoy!
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