The One Crucial Step To Creating The Life You Want
Whether you desire your dream job, a relationship that makes your heart swoon or a plump bank account, this practice is guaranteed to help you attract what you want into your life.
It's so powerful, I recommend people do it daily. It helps you soften your edges. Release any resistance that's keeping you tense. The bonus is that clarity rises to the surface, and you land in love.
All of this magic begins to unfold with forgiveness.
But it's not for the reasons you may think. Actually, there are reasons not to forgive. Don't forgive because you want to sweep important issues under the rug, or to please others. Don't forgive to sell yourself out in effort to create harmony. Don't forgive because you think it's what you "should" do. It must come from an authentic place in order to be effective.
Now, if you're ready to peel back the layers that cover your heart and clouding your spirit, then yes: PLEASE forgive. Those layers of resentment, anger, sadness, frustration and competitive mindset keep you hostage to fear.
Forgiveness helps you ditch the murky lenses that encourage you to look for flaws or examples of lack and trade them in for a shiny new perspective.
I know, it's easier said than done.
Maybe you're bummed about the disastrous business deal you made years ago and still regret it. Or the relationship you wish you'd put more effort into. Perhaps you carry guilt about how you handled your finances in the past.
Whatever it may be, ask yourself what value comes from holding onto those stories for another day of your life? Are they really adding value? Are they bringing you closer to creating more of what you want in life?
I want to gently help you see the answer. It's pretty simple: no, they're not. They're keeping you in the past and likely tainting your present.
Those stories weigh us down. They hold us back from love, expansion, prosperity and feeling the way we really want to feel. It's time to let them be what they are: history. You don't have to carry them with you.
Forgive yourself, forgive the way the circumstances unfolded and allow yourself to let go with your whole heart so you can begin again. Move forward with confidence that you hold the power to choose differently this time.
This is where I think a sitting practice for just three minutes can create radical change in your life. The key is to do it more than once — I encourage three times a week to start.
Please, take a comfortable seat and set a timer for three minutes. Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths. Then, say to yourself quietly, "I am ready to let go, and I'm grateful for forgiveness." Then let whatever thoughts and emotions come up rise to the surface. "I forgive ___ for ___. I forgive myself for ____." Keep forgiving for the whole three minutes.
You may be surprised by what comes up and what you let go of in three short minutes.
Perhaps you feel a little bit lighter afterward ... maybe not the first time, but maybe the third or fourth. Everyone is different.
This practice is like tapping into a natural superpower. It's an act of surrender that helps you land in your natural state of well-being, where infinite possibilities await you.
It's helpful at any time in life, especially when you're experiencing a lot of emotions. When you know it's time to move on and not dwell in them. It's also helpful when you desire clarity or you feel like there's unidentifiable resistance to a situation.
Forgiveness is not about dismissing events or people's words and actions as if they didn't happen (and yes, this includes yourself). It simply allows you to soften and have more compassion toward yourself and others. In turn, it allows you to see more clearly with a new and loving perspective.
Ultimately, you're letting go of what no longer serves you. You're freeing up space in your mind, body and overall spirit for creativity to flow, more joy, more abundance and more ease to listen to your intuition. And that's truly the best way to start living a life you love.