Are you taking full responsibility for your life? Are you taking ownership over the decisions and actions you take? In order to live your best and most authentic life, you must. This is your life to live.
All too often we can go to a place of blaming, to making excuse after excuse. We relinquish all of our power when we go there. We become victims and perceive ourselves as powerless. This is far from the truth; you have the choice to live from a place of love or a place of fear. Fear keeps you in the victim mindset.
Now, there's no denying the hurt and pain of the past. These experiences have made you the person you are. But you can go beyond the pain; you can go beyond the discomfort. And you can choose to live a life of gratitude and presence.
Here are 10 ways to let go of being a victim:
1. Look in the mirror.
The more you're the victim, the more disconnected you become from your body. So take today as an opportunity to look in the mirror. Look into your eyes and realize all the power is right there within you to live your best life.
Journaling is medicine. It is where thoughts and feelings can come out in ways they have not been expressed before. You tap into your truth when you journal, so take an opportunity to do this today.
3. Start a meditation practice (of any kind).
There are psychological, emotional and physical benefits to meditation. By taking some time to meditate today, you're going within yourself and gaining the power back. You're taking care of yourself, which gives the victim mindset less room to be present.
4. Write, and rewrite, your own story.
Everyone has a story. This story is unique and special. By writing it out, you're taking ownership and responsibility in your life. You're working on accepting your past and becoming fully present in your life. This is where all goodness lies.
5. List your resentments, then separate yourself from them.
Resentments are detrimental to your overall well-being. By writing them out, you give them less power and realize you're not a victim to your resentments or circumstances. Don't let anyone or anything hold you back from living your life.
6. Forgive yourself.
The past is the past. There's no need to live there. The more you do, the more pain you'll feel. So work on forgiving yourself today.
7. Pray for the sick and suffering.
Most people are sick and suffering in their own ways. The more you pray for others, the more you connect to yourself. The more you tap into the authentic love within, the more you can live from a place of compassion.
8. Talk to yourself in moments of pain.
When you notice the feelings of blame or shame or guilt come up, talk to yourself. Repeat, "I am enough, I will get through this, I am not alone," over and over again. Allow for the positive affirmations to become present in your self-talk.
9. Write down your goals for this week.
Victimization keeps you trapped and immobilized. By writing down a goal for this week, you'll have something to look forward to and attempt to attain. This will empower and inspire you on new levels.
10. Keep a support network.
You were not put here to get through life alone. Your support network is vital. Surround yourself with people who bring out the light in you. With people that make you feel good and push you forward in your life and not stuck in the past or victimhood. You get to choose your support network.