How To Feel Like You're 20, No Matter How Old You Are
Agelessness is all about vitality, the creative force that gives birth to new life — the divine feminine that makes it all happen.
Blades of grass will push up through a brick patio even if there is a foot of gravel underneath the brick, because nature is always determined to push outward, upward and forward in the ongoing act of creation.
Vitality is our natural state. Taking all the right supplements and pills or getting that procedure done, isn't the prescription for anti-aging. It's ageless living that brings back a sense of vibrancy and youthfulness.
I'm all for exercise and healthy eating, but forcing yourself to go to a badly lit basement gym and work up a sweat on an elliptical machine is not going to make you ageless — especially if it's while staring at a concrete wall or a depressing 24-hour news channel, and avoiding any of the foods you really love.
Don't "battle" aging when you can dance with life and move your body joyously.
The "perfect" combination of weight training, low-impact aerobics and interval training isn't going to do it. If you have a passion for tweaking your workout routine, by all means, go ahead and do that, but don't think you have found the magic formula.
The real fountain of youth is the fountain of happiness, well-being and connection with what the writer Tosha Silver calls, "The Divine Beloved" (or God, Goddess, Source, Higher Power, the Universe, All that Is, or any other name that speaks to your heart and spirit). The anti-aging prescription is to love life, try new things and savor your experiences. Joy comes from feeling connected to the life force.
While your skin may not glow as it did when you were 20, you can glow with vitality if you see yourself as an expression of the Divine and a being through which "The Divine Beloved" operates. For you, agelessness may mean you finally find the courage to stop dyeing your hair to hide the gray, or it may mean you finally start dyeing it because it makes you feel better and you don't care what anyone thinks of your decision.
You get to decide what makes you feel ageless and how you want to express yourself. If your daughter says, "Oh, mom, you're too old to wear that," tell her, "No, I'm not!" Learn the skill of standing up to and defying the cultural editors of our joy and freedom — especially in your own family. And we have to teach our daughters to become ageless, too. They need to reject the notion that at a certain age, their value begins to decline. Those lessons start with you.
You can turn back the hands on the clock when it comes to physical health and vitality, by being open to what's new but not afraid to hold onto what's old, if it still works for you. If you feel like trying something new, try it simply because you want to, not because you're afraid of being left behind.
On one hand, listening to new bands and musical performers might help you to remain ageless, just like spending time around people 20, 30 and even 40 years younger than you, will help you stay connected to what is happening now. What you will also discover is that interests in things like art and music are in fact, completely ageless.
I know 20-year-olds who adore the music of Jimi Hendrix and Bruce Springsteen and are really into vinyl records. My tango community encompasses people from 25-to-75. Age couldn't matter less. Agelessness means you make your decisions based not on a fear of looking foolish, but on feeling comfortable in your body and being keenly interested in the world around you.