You don't have to spend one more day unable to look in the mirror. The days of feeling disempowered, like you hate the body you're in are over. Here are seven adjustments to your day that will instantly shift your inner dialogue and outward actions to align with radical self-love.
1. Heal your relationship with Self.
How often do tell yourself, "I love you"? I know it sounds corny but seriously, how many minutes or hours do you practice loving yourself every day?
Try this first thing in the morning and last thing at night: place one hand on your belly and one hand on your heart, look in the mirror and tell yourself how much you love every inch of YOU. Describe specific aspects of yourself and your physical being that are wonderful and unique. Say it like you mean it. When you look in the mirror, you're seeing the only person who can change your negative relationship with your body to a positive one.
2. Give yourself an all-over-body kiss.
To get a natural all-over glow, take hot bath in Epsom salts, followed by a coconut oil massage. Add two cups of Epsom salts to your bath and scrub yourself from head to toe with it. As you do so, imagine you're washing self-judgment away. Coconut oil is a natural moisturizer beneficial to your hair, teeth and every inch of your body.
3. Calm your blood sugar.
It's difficult to find self-love when your blood sugar swings like a pendulum, depleting your focus and energy. The best foods are whole foods that haven't been processed in any way, combined with "good fats" like grass-fed butter, Ghee, MCT oil and fish oils. You'll be rewarded with stability in your blood sugar and your outlook.
4. Go on a gratitude walk.
In our complicated world, it's easy to overlook the benefits of simply moving your body with pleasure and gratitude, especially when you can connect to the natural environment. Practicing gratitude with movement reprograms your cellular biology much faster than just gratitude alone. You'll be surprised at improvements in areas of digestion elimination, serotonin and dopamine. It'll also develop the will center of your prefrontal cortex, making you more committed to your self loving practice.
5. Cultivate your inner garden.
We have a flora of bacteria in our gut responsible for 90% of our immune system, hormone production and digestion. The health of our gut is the basis of our health overall, and eating a high volume of leafy green vegetables combined with garnishes of cultured foods like kefir, raw unpasteurized sauerkraut and daily probiotics will encourage healthy cultivation of friendly flora in our guts. These foods will help you regain your lovable goddess glow!
6. Eat with your highest vision of love.
We are what we eat, and we eat what we are. Many of us — myself included — use food for comfort and have a habit of trying to fill the void created by a lack of self-love with the pleasure of food. The pleasure found in food goes away as soon as we're done eating, but what remains is often guilt, and shame, with all the energy of those feelings heading through our digestion.
Before you reach for food as a source of comfort, ask yourself, "If I really, really loved myself, what would I do in this moment?" Look at the emotional need behind the craving and figure out how you can lovingly care for yourself in a pleasurable way, without food. Try replacing the habitual consumption of food with an action: try an activity you've postponed, put energy toward developing a friendship or relationship, honor your creativity, explore something new that gives you pleasure!
7. Be love.
To truly feel love in our lives, we have to be it, channel it and feel it in every facet of our daily expression. Don't postpone or wait for it by saying, "I'll love myself when I lose 5 pound," or "when I don't wake up on a fat day," or "when I've achieved what I feel I need to achieve." You're worthy of love NOW, so stop negating the time in between now and finding self-love in the future. Like happiness, love comes first, and then everything in your life becomes an extension of this love.
Practice holding kindness in your heart during daily tasks and watch how this moving, meditative radical self-loving practice translates into a healthier, balanced Self.