(My bedroom images were all “single” women in photographs, “single” chairs, “single” everything…)
Dana's account is quite accurate. Our meeting was so intense that I felt tipsy when I left Café 101, and all I had to drink was water!
While the words we speak and the objects we surround ourselves with tell a very accurate story (read between the lines written by Dana), our subconscious connection to the place we live and where our bedroom/bed is located practically scream where we are on our path through Love and Relationships. This became glaringly obvious to me after a set of red satin sheets on my bed opened my eyes to the connection. It was such a profound realization that I was compelled to research it with all of my clients and hundreds of people surveyed. I even thought back to every home I had inhabited since I was 16 and had my first relationship encounter. It is such a sure thing that I can ask any stranger on the street and pretty much predict their relationship scenario, just as I did with Dana.
The great news about all of this is that once your eyes are opened to this new reality, you can make choices based in awareness. You can decide for yourself where you want to go next. Among all of the recommendations I made for Dana's bedroom, the most revealing is that of her nightstands. After moving her bed to her "Self" Quadrant, I asked if she was interested in a relationship with someone similar to herself or someone different. Once I got her answer I told her to remove the two identical nightstands she had. We actually decided to wait on getting new ones until she's actually ready and truly wants to be in a relationship. This was just the beginning of Dana's bedroom transformation. We'll write more about her next steps later and she will have to share with us all the fun and interesting activities that ensued! Keep in mind that her bedroom spans the Wealth, Community and Wisdom Quadrants of her home, and these areas will all be affected by her changes, not just her Love Relationships.
If you dare to venture into your own bedroom and look at it with fresh eyes, here are 5 easy things to inspect to see where you can up your love quotient:
1. The nightstands -- do they suit you & your ideals? The first change you can make immediately is to ensure your nightstands are matching up to your relationship desires.