When you’re happy, you feel confident, purposeful and in harmony with your true self. People who are genuinely happy are healthier, kinder and have better relationships. Truly happy people don't try to get happy. They're happy because they recognize the power of making happiness a habit.
You can train your brain to see the good in every situation and make happiness your way of life. I share empowering ways to become more happy in my book, and these five go-to tricks can help you create a happy life.
1. Avoid emotional reasoning.
Don’t believe what you feel is actually true. Your feelings are a guidance system, but be careful not to assume they are fact. You may be thinking your feelings are the truth, but this prevents you from seeing the reality of life.
For example, if you feel rejected because someone turned you down, that doesn’t mean you are unlovable or unworthy of other people’s time. But if you believe your emotions and let them reason for you, you could block yourself from feeling confident.
2. Know your choices are not forever.
Every choice you make is a brilliant exploration of yourself. You have an opportunity to align with your desires and learn what doesn’t work for you. When you're stuck trying to make a choice, ask yourself if you're worried about the outcome? Most of the time, people fail to move forward because they think their choice will be a final move.
Nothing is ever final or finished. The job you take, the relationship you enter and the home you live in are all temporary choices. Some choices last a few days, some decades. The time is irrelevant when it comes to making the choice. Just choose what feels right for you in the moment.
3. Be in touch with your why.
Why you do what you do is the most important identifier for your success. Whether you want to lose weight, quit an addiction, change jobs or relationships, find a new group of friends or start your own business, your why matters. Whatever you desire, get clear about your why.
Why you do it will help you focus clearly on your reasons to create the results you desire. When you do things from love, you're aligned with your highest truth and success will be achieved.
4. Show people how to treat you.
Look at all of your relationships and see what they have in common: You. How do people in those relationships treat you? You either show people to treat you with love and respect, or you don’t. You are, on some level, responsible for any mistreatment in your life. You have, on some level, allowed it to persist.
Instead of blaming or complaining about your relationships, own your true self-worth and stand up for yourself with dignity and pride. You can refocus any relationship. Even patterns that have persisted for 15 years can be address by you negotiating your real worth. Commit to yourself from a place of love and light, not fear and doubt. Let your relationships be full of love.
5. Invest in your dreams.
Putting in energy, time and financial resources into something you believe will never lead you astray. When your heart and head are aligned and you’re focused on your desire, give it all you got. Investing in your dreams is investing in yourself. When you show up for your dreams, you are saying you matter.
A farmer does not yell at his crop to grow faster. He knows there's a season of growing and a season of harvest. If you're investing in your dream, give yourself time to see the harvest. Don’t abandon your dream because it isn’t growing fast enough. Great things take time to develop, but when you water them with love, you will be rewarded in more ways than you can ever imagine. Don’t give up on yourself or your dreams.
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