Life is short, and we’re all in an endless pursuit of feeling “happy.” If you’re reading this, and you DON’T feel happy, you may be unknowingly sabotaging yourself.
Here are some reasons why you currently may NOT be living a life you feel incredible about — and how you can fix them.
1. You haven’t made clear goals on where you want to be.
A lot of people say they don’t like something about where they are, but they don’t say what they DO want instead.
Instead of “I hate my job,” try making a goal to be in the job of your dreams 12 months from now.
Instead of "I'm swimming in debt," try, “I’m going to find a way to pay off $1,000 of my debt 90 days from now,” then brainstorm how you can do it.
If you feel fat, make a goal to lose weight.
Make it a goal to actively change whatever you don't like.
2. If you do have a goal, you’re not taking focused action on it.
You may have heard the popular quote, “A goal without a plan is just a wish.”
Making a goal is Step 1. Next, find a way to make your goal happen.
If, say, you do want to be in your dream job by 12 months from now, create a plan to get there. Plan on making “x” amount of connections in your industry, submitting “x” amount of resumes, or working on a side project that will help you get more noticed.
If you want to lose weight, stick to one eating and exercise plan and commit to it.
3. You’re surrounding yourself with the wrong people.
If the people around you are negative, don’t believe in your dreams, or always behave like victims, their thought patterns are going to seep into your subconscious.
It’s hard to be positive when everyone around you is miserable.
Your best bet is to set yourself up for success by being around people who can take you higher. Join Facebook groups, forums, meetups, or anywhere where positive people congregate. If you want a better life, you need to be in the mindset that you’re able to create one.
4. You’re upper limiting.
When things start to get too good, and we reach a level of success we haven’t been able to before, a lot of us unknowingly start to sabotage it.
There are a lot of new sensations to handle, and we don’t know how life will change because of them.
If things are starting to get really good in your life and you’re suddenly picking fights or getting sick, realize what might be happening.
5. You’re waiting for the perfect conditions.
Many people say they’ll be happier when something else happens. They’ll date when they lose weight. They’ll calm down once they get the promotion. They’ll be happier when their health improves.
Instead of waiting for things to happen, try being happy where you are right now. You can still actively try to change things AND appreciate what you have now. Gratitude is the fastest path to multiplying your blessings.
6. You’re being lazy.
The fact is, it’s easier to complain than to try and improve things.
It’s a lot easier to let life happen to you, instead of actively trying to do the work to make things better.
If you want to live a life you feel better about, you have to take the time to create goals, surround yourself with positive things, and do whatever it takes for you to feel on track.
7. You look for what’s wrong in your life.
Two people can look at one situation and see completely different things. One person might go into a hotel room and notice a hole in the rug. Another person might be thankful for the roof over their heads.
You’re going to keep finding evidence of whatever you declare is true — so you can either keep finding things to be good, or bad. It’s always your choice.