We often think of gifts as material goods, and we often demonstrate our love for those who are close to us through material gifts. But when physical gifts break or disappear, what remains?
Our love connections and the way that we treat one another can be some of the greatest gifts. Here are five that I would like to share with you:
1. Let your loved ones be who they want to be.
This means that if your loved one makes a decision you aren't happy with, accept it and trust that they will be okay. Instead of wanting your partner's life to be how you want it to be, accept that he has her own life to live. Love them enough to support their decisions unless they're harming themselves and others.
2. Just give without any expectations.
A lot of us give to our loved ones and become angry or disappointed when they do not give us something in return. We place expectations on them for them to do the same as we have done for them. Let people give to you because they want to, not because they feel as through they owe you. Giving is not a burden; it's something you should genuinely want to do.
3. Genuinely care.
There's nothing more loving than when someone looks into your eyes out of pure consideration. Asking someone how they are while you are talking on your phone isn't a sign that you appreciate and consider the person that you are talking to. Take the few seconds to make eye contact.
4. Smile at your loved one.
Smile! It may be all that they want to see after having a rough day, or even before they begin a day that they think will be challenging. Ease up your loved one's day by giving them your smile. It doesn't cost anything and can create a lighter mood among a hostile one.
5. Consider if you would want to be treated the same way that you are treating them.
Sometimes we can get lost in our own heads. Every now and then, take a look at how you treat your loved ones and ask yourself if you would want to be treated the way that you are treating them. Regardless of how they have treated you, ask yourself if you have been fair in your treatment towards them. After all, we aren't responsible for how someone has treated us but we are responsible for how we treat others. This will allow you to treat people the way that you want to; not out of retaliation of how you have been treated but because you care about them.