How To Stop Making Excuses & Get Your Power Back
Have you ever wanted something so much in life you could almost taste it? But the excuses bombarded your mojo and actually stopped you in your tracks from taking any action toward it? If so, I understand.
Going after what we really want in life can be scary as hell. Our minds can quickly come up with a million excuses for why pursuing our dreams is not only far-fetched, but also not a good idea.
If I were to take a guess, I imagine you have several excuses up your sleeve right now. They’re probably really good at trying to convince you of all the reasons you supposedly can’t create what you want in life. They may even go as far as to tell you, “They’re just dreams, they'll never be a reality.”
I’m going to call “bullshit” on those excuses. I firmly believe that if you can dream it, you can do it!
I want to share a little secret with you that I’ve learned over the years: it’s all about how to stop treating fears like they’re your truth. Instead, use them as a tool to keep the excitement about your dreams alive within you. You can go even further and use them as a bit of inspiration to take action, so stay with me.
Maybe this sounds familiar, “I don’t know where to start. It’s going to take forever. I’m not qualified. What if it doesn’t work out and I fail?”
If you’ve had these thoughts or anything similar, you’re not alone. But here's what to do: change the channel. From FearFX to EmpowerMS. (yes, the MS stands for myself.) The more you tune in to what excites you, the more you empower yourself to create what lights you up.
It takes just as much time and energy to take action on your dreams as it does toward your excuses.
Just like anything else, the more you give energy to something, the more life it has and it naturally grows bigger. This is the basics in the power of focus. So if you want to take risks and actually do more of what you love, you're going to need to get comfortable moving through your excuses, because they'll inevitably show up.
Let’s just dive right in. Write down one of your biggest excuses in life. The words you hear yourself think or even say out loud on a regular basis when it comes to WHY you can’t do something you really desire.
Next, ask yourself what excitement would be brewing inside of you and trying to rise to the surface if you weren't scared. Hint: the excitement is underneath the fear …
Last, how could you turn that excitement into an empowering statement?
1. Excuse: “I'll probably just fail and it won't work out.” Take a moment really breathe through it, feel the fear in your belly and wherever else it shows up in your body. Now ask, “What excitement is trying to rise to the surface?”
2. Excitement: “The possibility of being authentically happy, doing what I love, excites me beyond belief.”
3. New empowering statement: “I am authentically pursuing my passions and successfully doing what I love.”
BAM! Now we’re talking. Can you feel that? The excitement and joy you feel as the possibilities brews inside you? This is what we call inspiration, and this can be your new source for taking action.
So lean into that inspiration; I encourage you to write down three steps you could take with that excitement leading the way.
Come up with a new statement you can affirm to yourself when those old stories of fear and excuses attempt to creep back in. Remind them that you're changing and you’re not into feeding energy toward those old excuses anymore. Over time those excuses will naturally dissipate and your new way of being will come into fruition.
You are enough. Exactly as you are right now, in this moment to do what you love. You have what it takes inside you to live your dreams. Trust that.
As a matter of fact, a great affirmation is “I trust myself and I trust the process.” Now you have put the power in your hands and boosted your confidence.
So here’s a virtual cheers to having a different conversation with our excuses. One that empowers us and helps us realize just how incredible it can be to move through the fear and taste the sweet rewards of what makes us who we are.