The state of being wildly busy is here to stay. Whether your busy is a challenge or a joy — or both — maintaining your momentum and strength in the marathon of life requires balance.
Balance is what enables a surfer to ride waves, even in treacherous weather. To ride out our own waves of life with skill requires that same internal sense of equilibrium.
Most of the extremely driven people I know who completely lack balance fear that if they had more balance they would lose their excellence in some way. In fact, it is with more balance that you gain excellence. When life goes crazy busy — even when it's really good — sleep gets out of whack, eating becomes a when-you-can-do-it event, and everything can get overwhelming fairly fast.
Our environments are a mirror of our lives. I can usually see in people’s homes just how balanced their life is at the moment. While a house that looks like a cyclone hit is a clear sign of chaos, there are many ways to see imbalance. Homes decorated in all one color, extremely loud spaces, in-your-face technology-packed houses … all dramatically display imbalance. Living in spaces you want to avoid or in a place that makes you feel withdrawn, exhausted, anxious or upset is a more subtle way to experience imbalance in your home.
While balance is a very personal concept and no one feng shui tip is one-size-fits-all, here are some pretty universal ways you can create more balance in your space to help you become more centered and powerful in all of life.
1. Turn up the light in darkness.
Also turn down the ultrabright light. Dark spaces, especially in homes that make you feel lazy or unfocused, can benefit from extra light from full-spectrum light-bulbs. Hyper-bright spaces can benefit from lights on dimmers. Always try to dim the light an hour or two before bed, as it promotes a more restful sleep cycle.
2. Mix light and heavy objects.
If all of your furniture is extremely heavy, that denotes a heavy life. If everything is light, that hints at feeling ungrounded. Mix the two and you have more of a sense of stability and motion. Example: a giant desk with a lightweight chair on wheels is the perfect mix of heavy and light.
3. Burn dried sage wands in a ceremonious way.
Or beeswax candles. Both sage and beeswax add negative ions to your space as they burn, creating a more positive, refreshed environment. Since you likely can’t do this at your office, you can try some sandalwood essential oil on your wrists when you are feeling overwhelmed.
4. Let go of what you really don’t love.
Furniture, art and all objects are filled with memories and energy. By only keeping objects around you that reflect your style, personality and positive emotions, you create a more vibrant reflection in that mirror of life. While you're at it, let go of the voluntary obligations in your schedule that you don’t love as well. Free up some space to allow the new and excellent to enter your life.
5. Balance your foods a little more.
When things get out of whack in my schedule I find myself eating the same five easy-to-grab meals. Food ruts are also nutritional ruts. Clean out your refrigerator, and start fresh by stocking a more full spectrum of easy snacks and multicolored fruit and veggies.
6. Listen to sounds of nature.
Nature recordings will do in a pinch, but if you can actually listen to crickets, birds, falling water even from an indoor fountain, or the like it can help you feel more centered.
Lately I have been listening to music tuned to 432 Hz. It's thought to be in the vibration closest to that of the Earth. Most modern recordings are tuned to the A440 Hz standard. While this is a very far-out New Age concept smashed by skeptics, I really feel like music at 432 Hz more profoundly affects my whole body. Do a little YouTube sampling of 432 Hz music and see if it affects you. It actually makes me giddy! I wonder if you feel it, too?
7. Make sure you have restful space.
Even if you don’t feng shui your whole bedroom today, create more of a sanctuary in your bedroom. Some Earthy tones, decluttered closets, removing work from your bedroom (or far from the bed in a studio) and maybe (don’t get mad!) even taking the TV out of your bedroom can make it dramatically more restful on every level.
Balance does not make you lose your edge if you are an intense person by nature. In fact, it is dramatically empowering. Your happiness and more focused, present energy will radiate. Of course, you will only know this if you give it a try. I hope you do!