Love, in all its forms, is the one thing we all need. Soulmates exist in various types of relationships. However, for the purpose of this article, the term soulmate exclusively refers to the relationship between lovers. Some have found these sacred relationships while others anxiously wait. Rather than searching, why not create fertile ground for the experience of such a union? These five practices can set the stage to invite the love of your life or deepen an existing partnership.
1. Own past choices.
Past relationships cannot be viewed as something that happened to you. To take this stance is to remove the important power of choice.
To own the part we have played in our circumstances is to be able to transcend them. We don’t always directly create our situations, but we do decide on how to participate within them. To think otherwise is to always be a victim of what comes to you. To be accountable empowers you to shape a loving interaction of a higher dimension.
2. Show appreciation.
It’s so easy to take the little things for granted in everyday life. Make it a habit to express appreciation wherever appropriate. Silently giving gratitude is a great practice but don’t forget the impact of openly telling people when you are appreciative of their presence or efforts.
To affirm the great people and things around you is to attract more of it to you. A soulmate may intuitively know how much they mean to you, but verbal confirmation is always welcome. It’s not rocket science.
3. Practice vulnerability.
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it." — Rumi
Intimate relationships are an ongoing practice in vulnerability. It is the relinquishing of each person’s armor that allows for genuine connection. A healthy relationship creates the safe space to let down defenses; however, vulnerability is something that can be practiced outside of these situations.
Vulnerability is always challenging. Start dropping your shield in trivial situations so when it really matters, you’ll be less uncomfortable.
It’s incredibly important to do the work of forgiving. Every relationship, intimate or otherwise, leaves an imprint of energy that is carried forward. Unresolved issues tend to play out in subsequent relationships, therefore it’s important to have closure.
Note that closure is not something that is often neatly obtained from the other party. Instead, it's something you grant yourself through the act of forgiveness. Release the energy of disappointment by finding the value of the lessons learned. Forgive them, forgive yourself, and move ahead unencumbered.
5. Love yourself.
Treat yourself with all the kindness you deserve. Know what feels good to so you set a standard. When you are sure of your own self-worth, you won’t have a need to make your partner responsible for it. You will be aware of what works for you and what doesn’t and as a result will not compromise your own essence.
Working on these five characteristics may help attract or strengthen a soulmate experience. More importantly, these skills help to build a stronger individual who thrives inside or outside of a relationship. You are at an advantage by attending to your own soul before intertwining with another's.