Here are the 12 categories to focus on for your vision list. Some of the categories may be redundant when you flesh them out. That's OK; the world of manifestation doesn't mind redundancy. Feel free to add more categories of your own, of course:
This includes having children, how you spend your time, what religion you practice if any, work ethic, approach to health (nutrition and exercise), and whether or not you're OK with drugs/alcohol/cigarettes.
2. Emotional availability & connection
Is he/she available and fully willing to commit? How does he or she demonstrate this readiness? Is she or he willing to be vulnerable? What's the connection like when you're both open to each other?
What are your needs? Be specific. Be poetic. Be brave.
4. Physical attributes
In your ideal world ...
How important is traditional, left-brained intellect to you? Do you want your partner to be a reader? A searcher? An explorer of the world of ideas?
6. How he/she feels about me.
Do you want respect? Adoration? Trust?
7. How I feel about him/her
Be careful here: the culture says that you must feel wildly in love and attracted otherwise it means you're with the wrong person. An essential component of creating a healthy foundation on which to begin a relationship is making sure that your expectations about love, romance, and attraction are in alignment with reality, not fantasy.
Based on who you are, what you saw growing up, and your experiences with past relationships, be detailed about this aspect of your future partner.
Paint your vision in terms of extroversion/introversion, sense of humor, play, kindness, generosity.
10. Family and friends
What kind of a connection to his family of origin and friends do you hope to see in your future partner?
Keeping in mind that having different interests is NOT a dealbreaker, which interests would you most like to share with a future partner? Do you hope your partner has a love of travel? Theater? Hiking? Watching movies? Swimming? Someone who has passions and hobbies? What about his or her relationship to creativity?
This may or not be important to you, depending on how much spirituality plays a part in your own life.
There is real power in a vision list, especially when you write it from a place of joy. You may be amazed when, a year from now, you pull out the list and realize that the person sitting across from you does, indeed, embody nearly all of the essential qualities that you write about today.