The One Question To Ask If You Want To Lead A Fulfilling Life
It was a year ago this month that I sat across from my cousin who lay in a hospital bed, his body riddled with cancer. Forty-eight years old, diagnosed in December of 2012.
In a special moment of connection with him I asked, "If you knew that you were going be given this diagnosis, how differently would you live your life?" His answer: "I wouldn't stress about 99% of the stuff I stressed about. None of it really matters. I would REALLY live and do what I love all the time. I would travel more, I wouldn't argue with my wife and I would love more. I wasted so much time on stupid stuff that just doesn't matter."
My cousin fought like hell and lost his battle with cancer in April of 2013. I was there when he took his last breath. I'm not sure what made me sadder his loss, or the fact the he barely lived. I know full well that he died with his light still left in him ... like my mom.
So much life to be lived. So many dreams unfulfilled. GONE, in one breath.
Why am I sharing this story?
Because the more people I coach, the more I learn that a high percentage of us are just going through the motions. We're stuck in mundane lives not living out our purpose. We postpone pursuing our goals and dreams out of fear or because we think we'll get to them later.
This pains me because I was this person, and sadly it took witnessing the loss of two people I love to WAKE ME UP! Life is too short, and ultimately, when I'm 95 looking back I want to be able to scream I LIVED! No regrets, no light left in me.
That's why I've made it my mission to help others move forward and create the lives they're truly meant to live. To thrive, not just survive.
My question to you is how happy and fulfilled are you in the different areas of your life?
A great place to start is to look at each area of life (health, finances, relationships, romance, career, family, personal growth, fun) and rate your level of fulfillment in each from 1-10.
Then ask yourself:
What am I putting up with? A score of 5 or below in any area is a good indication you're putting up with something.
Anything that you're "putting up with" drains y our energy and robs us of happiness and fulfillment.
Next, decide what area(s) could use a boost, and start setting goals that connect with your values.
NOTE: you don't have to make HUGE changes to improve your life. It doesn't have to be all or nothing. In fact, the all-or-nothing approach sets us up for failure because it can feel overwhelming. So we freeze, become stuck and don't move forward toward our goals. Microshifts equal sustainability.
Creating a life of purpose and fulfillment is about being willing to look at our lives constantly (which I know can be scary), consistently taking inspired action and staying focused and committed when encountering obstacles.
Please, please please let this be the year you choose to live life to the fullest!
What step will you take today that gets you closer to the life you're meant to live?
At the end of our journey, let there be no light left in us!