Fitting in is overrated. Even if you get really good at it, whatever you think you win as a result isn’t really a prize worth winning. So let me say this: Fitting out is hard, but fitting in is harder. You know that already, because there have been plenty of times in your life where you’ve stood at the crossroads of trying to fit in or be yourself.
At first, removing a little bit of our unique personality may not seem like it will do much harm, but we’d be delusional to think that it stops with just one thing. Soon enough we’ve eliminated so much of who we really are that what results is nothing less than Spiritual Amnesia. Living only half a life as some sort of spiritual amnesiac requires we do the self-work of uncovering who we really are, and start living as our true selves. Otherwise, without self-awareness, you'll always feel internally chaotic.
Spiritual practice has taught me that being clear on our own identity is an essential foundation for a happy life. Pretending to be “normal” is a formula for disappointment and unhappiness.
The question is, what is your truth? What if you stopped pretending to fit in?
It's our responsibility to be extraordinary and give up all hope for remaining generic carbon copies. We must stop pretending to fit in and find the courage to be exactly as we are. Love yourself, love your day, love your life!
10 Inspiring Quotes on "Fitting Out"
1. “Those who follow the crowd usually get lost in it.”
― Rick Warren, The Purpose Driven Life: What on Earth Am I Here For?
2. “We all want to be extraordinary
and we all just want to fit in.
Unfortunately, extraordinary people rarely fit in.”
― Sebastyne Young
3. “There are people who are generic. They make generic responses and they expect generic answers. They live inside a box and they think people who don't fit into their box are weird. But I'll tell you what, generic people are the weird people. They are like genetically manipulated plants growing inside a laboratory, like indistinguishable faces, like droids.”
― C. JoyBell C.
4. “We're all misfits here ... Halfies and homos and hopeless romantics, the outcast and outrageous and terminally weird. That's where art comes from. From our weirdnesses and our differences, from our manic fixations, our obsessions, our passions. From all those wild and wacky things that make each of us unique.”
― Terri Windling, Welcome to Bordertown
5. “It's not the job of this town to make me feel happy. It's not this town´s fault that I don't feel I fit in. It doesn't matter where you are in the world, because it's about where you are in your head. It's about the other world I inhabit. The world of dreams, hope, imagination, and memories. I'm happy up here, and because of that I'm happy up there too”
― Cecelia Ahern, If You Could See Me Now
6. “We're so quick to cut away pieces of ourselves to suit a particular relationship, a job, a circle of friends, incessantly editing who we are until we fit in.”
― Charles de Lint
7. “I myself am opaque, for some reason. Their eyes cannot see me. Yes, that's it: The world is autistic with respect to me.”
― Anne Nesbet, The Cabinet of Earths
8. “Honestly, if you don't fit in then you're probably doing the right thing.”
― Lights Poxleitner
9. “But you don't have to fit in to be OK. Believe me! I am the not-fitting-in world expert. I have not fit in maybe five different countries so far. But it's not a big deal, not really. It's OK.”
― Anne Nesbet, The Cabinet of Earths
10. “Maybe it's wrong-footed trying to fit people into the world, rather than trying to make the world a better place for people.
― Paul McHugh, in The New Yorker
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