8 Things You Don't Have To Worry About
If you're anything like me, you don’t need any more reasons to worry. You need a few reasons to stop worrying, so below are eight big sources of anxiety you can stop worrying about right now.
1. Your to-do list
We all need down time, so make time each day to do nothing. There will always be another task to add to your to-do list. Housework and errands are a never-ending circle of work; schedule realistic times to conquer these items, then put the list out of sight and out of mind.
2. Your physical appearance
Despite what a billion-dollar cosmetic industry might have you believe, within 100 years (give or take) every sentient being on the planet will have faced aging square on. We all experience the loss of that coveted youthful glow.
Why fight it? This one's a sure bet, and by fighting it you might even speed the process up. So relax; aim to feel good, but stop obsessing.
3. Keeping up with the Joneses
There's enormous social pressure to meet certain living standards: pressure to buy expensive houses, nice cars and fancy clothes.
Do you really need the granite countertop that's robbing your first born child of her education? The entire concept of living beyond our means plays out this way. We have an impulse that something external will make us happy. This fixation is usually short-lived, and before long we move on to the next object of our desire.
Living beyond your means only causes debt, stress and anxiety; it won't make you happy.
4. Your imperfections
Nobody is perfect, but all too often we attempt to give off the facade that we are. Our Facebook walls are plastered with pictures of our perfect families, vacations or bodies. And while Facebook is supposed to connect us in an encouraging social network, all to often it triggers loneliness, jealousy, worry and disappointment.
Do you ever wonder why your life is falling short of all those around you? Trying to be flawless will leave you exhausted, and while you might fool your Facebook friends, you certainly won't fool yourself or those who care about you.
Nobody is perfect, and it's the good, the bad, the quirks and the flaws that make up our unique human spirit. Can you imagine if everyone were exactly the same all the time? Differences and imperfections are beautiful. Embrace yours.
5. What people think of you
You’d might be surprised to discover how little others actually think of you — don't take this the wrong way, because people love and care about you, but what you did or said isn't at the top of their minds. People are far to preoccupied with their own lives to allow long periods of attention to what you're doing.
Even when others do have thoughts about you, it's always flitting and will pass in a mere moment. Everything passes, so stop worrying about it.
6. The future and the past
When you worry constantly about the future or the past you forget to enjoy the present moment.
Make good decisions today to benefit your future, but remember to stop and smell the roses. Today is what it's all about.
Although it might be true that you should have taken that other job, since your new boss is a real jerk, worrying about it now is only robbing your present moment of joy. Stop replaying history like a broken record. Instead of worrying about the past, think about what you've learned and how much you've grown.
There's no secret: death is certain. There's no escape route.
Death is our teacher, and from it we can learn about life.
Accepting our impending death doesn't mean giving up; by acknowledging death you can begin to see the fragility and beauty of life.
Death teaches us the true value of life. Our priorities become clear, and change becomes easy. We find clarity in the saying "don't sweat the small stuff," and we appreciate our loved ones on an entirely new level.
8. Other people’s drama
There's no good reason to worry about the drama of someone else. We have enough of our own problems without draining our energy on the worries of others. Naturally we want to help others, but often we just get trapped because we can't help, which causes stress.
Set boundaries and pay attention to your mind. Start by letting go of a few of these worries and feel the tension start to release. Then let go of a few more and before long we can feel the tightly wrapped ball of worries unwinding and we can begin to finally relax and enjoy some release.