The world is constantly changing. There can be no doubt. So why do so many of us try to hold on to what was or will never be? We live our lives based on a thought, a dream, an idea we once had for what we thought we wanted, then we spend so much time wondering "what if" that we fail to look at "what is." We spend so much time worrying about what may or may not happen that we forget to take action right here, right now, and create what will actually be.
When you learn to let go, you free yourself from the trap, you empower yourself with the ability to move your life in the direction you want it to go. And this is not just about whatever happened in the past. It's about letting go of some pre-conditioned idea you have of what should be, rather than what is.
Learn to break free of that old programming you have and you free yourself to create the life you were born to live.
The key is to not wait until you're at the breaking point. Take action in these areas when you don't need to and you'll free yourself from being trapped again.
Here are 5 ways to create massive shifts in your life through simple actions:
1. Positivity rubs off. So does negativity. So remind yourself you have a choice.
If you choose to stay around negative people who do not support your dreams, you'll become a negative person who stops believing in your dreams. You don’t have to be BFFs with everyone. Let some people go. It's OK to see some people once a quarter or even not at all. It is your life. So be selective with whom you spend our life with. It will make all the difference.
2. Stay together by growing apart.
In time, you will outgrow some of the people and things that were once in your life. It's OK, it's part of everyone’s journey. Moving on does not mean you no longer love what you once had. It just means your paths intertwined for a moment in both of your journeys.
You loved them, you learned from them, they were a wonderful part of your experience as you were in theirs. Part with love and respect and help them on their path, and you'll always be connected. That, after all, is what living a good life is all about.
3. Be a quitter.
Being labeled a quitter is a 1950s attitude and should have stayed in that era. Today the world moves pretty fast. It shifts in the blink of an eye. Forcing yourself to stay with something that is not working today can be one of the worst things you can do. Edison, Einstein, Jobs and thousands of other success stories failed innumerable times before they succeeded. So be smart and don’t be afraid to move on. That can often be the best thing you ever did. Realizing when it is time to move on is not being a quitter. It's being smart.
4. You are alive, so your needs will change.
If you're good, if you're smart, you will change. That's life. Yet all too often, letting go is not the hard part. Realizing you have let go is the hard part. Before you can move on, you need to realize you have already let go. It's scary because you have nothing to hold on to. But only when you can admit to yourself that you've let go are you truly free. When you do that, you can watch the stress and the weight fall away. Then you can smile to yourself that you have grown.
5. Worst case never is.
Fear can be one the greatest emotions that will ever hold you back. Your brain is excellent at focusing on the worst case scenario. But take a minute and think about your life. How many times has the worst case ever happened? If you are honest, the answer will be never. Sure, bad things have happened. But rarely does the worst case ever occur. Yes, be aware of the worst case. Acknowledge it. Then realize it's rarely realistic. Let it go of it and focus on the realities of what's ahead. Those are the opportunities that you can Move On to.
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