The world in which we live encourages us to set plans, think about the future and have structure. It’s one of the subtle ways fear is integrated into our lives, even if we consciously encourage change.
Unfortunately, this means our first reaction when things go haywire isn’t conscious. I've had to deal with these haywire moments a lot.
I had a contract planned for December, and every second thing out of my mouth was: "In December..."
Then I got told that it's not happening. I was tempted to go into "This sucks!" mode. However, this time I used some of my strategies and created a more conscious reaction. I have an energetic emergency response that works great whenever my life is going up in smoke, like at airports where I'm about to miss flights.
So I get an email saying, "No, you don't have that contract anymore."
Thought 1: This sucks. I had so many things planned, I was going to have Christmas in New York, and (insert personal life sucks rampage here).
Thought 2: Well what else is possible here? Note: How your life turns out depends on your universal viewpoint.
Albert Einstein sums it up perfectly with this quote:
"There are two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
So I transformed my viewpoint from thinking that this sucks to trying to find the miracle. Here are some tools that can help you do the same.
1. Ask, "What's right about this that I'm not getting?"
This question allows yourself to see the other points of view available. It opens up your awareness. After asking this, I was able to look for a positive outcome.
2. Ask, "Do I require a human moment?"
In other frustrating times, I've ranted, cried, written, and slammed doors if I needed to, but today I didn't.
What now? You've had your pillow fight or therapeutic cry. Now it’s time to create some change. When I'm stressed I don't want to coach myself, so I use a meditation. I like problem-solving meditations, but pick something that works for you and is a mood turner. You’re looking for a higher resonance frequency.
3. Ask, "Is there energetic sludge I need to remove?"
I use either EFT or an Access Consciousness Clearing Statement. Go with what makes you comfortable — if you’re better off rocking some sun salutations, do that. It’s important to use what works for you.
4. Ask, "Do I need some support?"
The energy is clear. You’re looking for what’s possible, and you believe in a loving universe. It's time to hit turbo boost. We all have an energetic team here to help: call them angels, guides, spirits, entities, the goddess, or whatever you want (it's a mix for me). Ask for support, for the wisdom that's here for you, for this situation to turn around, for you to see the possibilities. Ask yourself what you require, then ask your team to help you. Whatever you're willing to ask and receive, they're willing to gift to you.
All through this process I keep asking questions, bringing up energy and clearing it.
5. Ask, "Is it time to move on?"
No matter what happens, it’s not the end of the world. Take time to be gentle, clear what you need to, get your vision back and keep moving forward. Remember, your worst day is someone else's dream. You're made for great things; you wouldn't be here if you weren't. Dream up bigger dreams, see bigger possibilities. You were never meant to be small.
This isn't a formula; it’s an art form. There's no paint by numbers in life. Take what works for you and ditch the rest. I would love to hear from you how you deal with life's sucky moments, or what you thought of my tips.