I've worked with hundreds of women, helping them become more intuitive eaters (read: listening to their body instead of diet rules), and there's always one step that people get tripped up on. In fact, they usually freak out when I ask them to do this:
Give yourself permission to eat whatever you want, whenever you want.
Are you shivering at the idea? If so, let me explain. In order to truly become an intuitive eater, you need to unravel years and years of dieting. And that means unraveling years and years of restriction, deprivation, and lists of good-versus-bad food.
Intuitive eaters look at ice cream (or bagels, cookies, etc.) and don’t think much of it. It’s just ice cream. It doesn’t have some sort of power over them or the ability to cause a full-out binge. But if you’re a dieter, you know that ice cream does have power over you.
So to get to the point where these “binge foods” don’t have power over you, it’s absolutely necessary to go through a phase where you let yourself unconditionally eat whatever you want. That means all ice cream any day, any time.
If this step sounds scary, I’m assuming that these are your fears: