Interest versus commitment. Most people are interested in change, healthy relationships and growth. But they're not committed. They think about it, read about it, write about it, talk about it. But they don't put in the work. This is called dabbling, and dabbling doesn't create secondary change. It just keeps you curious.
You can't dabble at exercise if you want to lose weight or get stronger. You can't dabble at writing if you want a career as a writer. If you want to be great at something, there are two things you need. One, a white hot desire. Two, a willingness to submerge yourself. And I can't think of anywhere it applies more than in personal growth.
Fear is why we dabble.
You have to get past that fear or there will be no change.
Here's a tip.
Just get here.
DO SOMETHING THAT YOU DIDN'T THINK YOU COULD DO.
Terminate a relationship.
Start a relationship.
Whatever it is that you don't think you could do.
If you can do it, it will change everything. This is the tipping point. If you can get here, fear will start to subside. You've just proven to yourself that the impossible is possible. It's what happens when someone loses ten pounds in a month. Finishes a marathon. Overcomes depression. You destroy your false beliefs, which are the engine that feeds fear. And with that weight gone, you now have leverage.
All you have to do is lean forward. And if you want to learn how to do that, my online course, How To Attract Your Soul Mate & Discover Your Life's Purpose.