Many people feel stuck in life and want to move forward, but they question if it's fear or intuition guiding them. How do you know the difference between intuition and fear? On the journey to living life fully, we often brush up against comfort zone walls, especially when we long for something more than we currently have.
Recognize that right before a big breakthrough, there's usually a surge of insecurity, self-doubt and massive fear. This is why sometimes things get worse before they get better. Jumping from one stage of your life into the next can be nerve-racking, especially if you don't know if it’s fear or intuition in the driver’s seat.
I spent years depressed and addicted to pain killers because fear was consuming me. I stayed in corporate job that was unfulfilling, and fear kept telling me stories to keep me "secure." It wasn't until I recognized the difference between fear and intuition that I saw the powerful potential of releasing the fear in order to access my dreams. Once I got clear about my fear, I left corporate to pursue my passion of being my own boss, a travel writer and an author.
Fear doesn't have to stop us in our tracks; we can actually use our fear to access our deepest dreams. I've identified five powerful ways you can learn to understand whether fear or intuition is in control. After asking these five questions, you'll be a “clear your fear” master.
1. Ask: Do you feel expansive or restricted?
Do you feel excited, passionate and open to the possibilities of moving forward? Or do you feel trapped, stuck, and restricted? If you feel open and expansive, it's your intuition showing you the right path, though fear will still try to make you feel small and powerless.
2. Ask: Do you feel joyful or anxious?
If you feel at peace and in joy when you think about a new situation, it's driven from your intuitive guidance. Your inner voice will never lead you into an anxious experience. If you feel anxiety or frustration when you think about the situation, it's fear.
3. Ask: Does it feel loving, or dark and heavy?
Recognize that only love is real. Although there are fears related to life and death situations, like a bear chasing you in the woods, mental fear is a story we create in our own heads. Mental fear is dark and heavy, and it isn't loving at all. If you're ever confused in the moment, ask, "Is this thought loving?” If it isn't, repeat the mantra, "Only love is real."
4. Ask: Is it in your heart or your head?
If you think a lot about the situation, or you overanalyze the outcome, it comes from your head, and chances are good that it's fear based. When you feel good about the potential outcome, the feelings and the driver of those emotions emanate from your heart.
5. Ask: Do you feel pulled or pushed?
This trick is the best way to know if fear or intuition is guiding you. If you feel pulled to do something because of a passion, loving desire or yearning in your heart, then it's intuition driving you in the right direction. If you feel pushed, as if you have to do something, or if you feel obligated to stay in a situation that feels confining, you can bet fear is leading that rampage.
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